Therapy for Men with Anxiety & Relationship Struggles
Calm your mind, ease your body, and rebuild connection.
Most of the men I work with feel weighed down by responsibility and expectations, often doubting if they are doing enough. They describe carrying racing thoughts, chest tightness, irritability, and the pressure to succeed without ever feeling settled.
My approach combines mind–body work with a focus on cultural and family expectations, creating space for authentic living while rebuilding trust and closeness at home.
Welcome
I’m Rafael, a therapist for men and couples who feel like they carry more pressure than anyone sees.
Clients tell me their anxiety often feels like restlessness, racing thoughts, or a stomach that stays tight and unsettled. Alongside these symptoms is an inner critic that keeps them stuck or disconnected from the people who matter most.
Some begin therapy on their own, worn down by self-doubt and expectations. Others arrive as couples, tired of repeating the same arguments and longing to feel close again.
However you begin, our work will focus on calming anxiety in both mind and body, breaking cycles of distance in relationships, and moving toward a steadier, more connected life.
What Anxiety Feels Like
Anxiety does not always sound like “worry.” Often men describe:
Racing thoughts or restlessness that will not shut off
Trouble focusing or procrastination, sometimes mistaken for ADHD
Avoiding social events or shutting down with a partner
Chest tightness, stomach knots, or a body that stays tense
Poor sleep that leaves them drained
Feeling on edge after stress, or irritable with loved ones
Pressure to succeed while losing touch with who they are
How Relationship Issues Show Up
Anxiety often affects relationships as much as the individual. Couples I work with are often:
Caught in cycles of arguing, criticism, or silence
Struggling with distance or disconnection
Wanting more emotional openness but not knowing how to get there
Ready to break old patterns and create safer ways to reach for each other
How We’ll Work Together
My approach is culturally responsive and practical. I draw from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you:
Quiet racing thoughts and ease physical tension
Build confidence that is not tied only to performance or success
Strengthen openness and connection in your relationships
Reconnect with your values, your voice, and the people who matter most
Whether you are here for individual therapy or with your partner, I offer a supportive space to slow down, understand what is getting in the way, and begin creating lasting change.
Services
Individual Therapy
Work through racing thoughts, restlessness, and the pressure to always perform. Build lasting confidence, reduce physical tension, and feel more grounded in your daily life.
Couples Therapy
Break free from cycles of conflict or silence. Rebuild trust, improve communication, and create safer ways to reach for each other so you can feel close again.
About Me
I know how cultural values, family roles, and unspoken rules about strength and responsibility can shape the way men carry anxiety. For many, those expectations become both a source of resilience and a heavy weight.
My work honors those strengths while helping you step into calmer, more connected relationships without losing who you are in the process. Read My Story →
Online Therapy Across California
I provide online therapy for men and couples throughout California, including Southern California and beyond. Whether you’re in Los Angeles, San Diego, Riverside, or anywhere else in the state, we can meet virtually to begin this work together.
Ready to Begin?
You do not have to keep carrying the weight of anxiety or distance in your relationships on your own. Let’s start today.