Protecting the partnership.
Relational reconnection and attachment-based couples therapy.
$250 per 75-minute session | In-Network with Aetna & Anthem
Clinical Focus Areas
To the outside world, you are a power couple who has achieved so much, but inside the house you have become efficient roommates who are primarily managing logistics. I help couples drop their defensive armor and rebuild their bond through the lens of attachment so they can stop living parallel lives and start feeling like a united team once again.
Breaking the Conflict Loop:
We focus on identifying the silent patterns and reactive cycles that pull you apart whenever disagreements arise. Instead of just discussing surface-level arguments, we look at the internal physical tension and the protective walls that go up when you feel misunderstood. By understanding the underlying need for safety and connection, we help you shift from a defensive posture toward a vulnerable space where you can finally reach for each other and feel heard once again.
Navigating Family and Cultural Impasses:
This is for couples navigating the unique stress of setting boundaries with extended family while building a life of their own. We address the emotional gridlock that happens when family traditions or expectations clash with your partnership. I help you navigate the cognitive guilt and the differing scripts you both brought from your past so you can move forward as a united team that honors your roots without compromising the health of your own home.
Restoring Intimacy and Connection:
We work on moving beyond the logistics of managing a household and returning to a place of genuine friendship and affection. We target the quiet drift that occurs when you become efficient roommates rather than romantic partners who truly enjoy each other. By addressing the behavioral habits of bickering or emotional distance, we build a foundation of appreciation and shared meaning that allows you to reconnect physically and emotionally in a way that feels real and sustainable.
Building a Shared Legacy:
This is about defining what your unique partnership looks like when you are no longer following the blueprints you inherited from previous generations. We explore how to align your individual values and your career ambitions into a shared vision for your future together. By addressing the mental stuckness of old expectations, we help you build a new legacy that reflects your authentic choices as a couple rather than just performing roles that were chosen for you.
Our Clinical Roadmap
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method principles, we map your specific cycle of conflict to move you from judging each other’s solutions to understanding each other’s lived experiences.
Phase 01: De-Escalating (Identifying the Cycle)
We focus on identifying the silent patterns and reactive cycles that pull you apart whenever disagreements arise. Instead of just discussing surface-level arguments, we look at the internal physical tension and the protective walls that go up when you feel misunderstood. By understanding the underlying need for safety and connection, we help you shift from a defensive posture toward a vulnerable space where you can finally reach for each other and feel heard once again.
Phase 02: Reconnecting (Healing the Drift)
We move beneath surface-level arguments to address the core vulnerabilities that have been neglected for too long. We create a space safe enough for the partnership to thrive by addressing the behavioral habits of bickering or emotional distance. By building a foundation of appreciation and shared meaning, we allow you to reconnect physically and emotionally in a way that feels real and sustainable. This phase shifts the focus from managing a household back to genuine affection.
Phase 03: Rebuilding (Creating a Shared Legacy)
The final phase is about defining what your unique partnership looks like when you are no longer following the blueprints you inherited from previous generations. We establish new relational infrastructure and rituals of connection that protect your partnership and allow you to build a shared future. Together we help you build a new legacy that reflects your authentic choices as a couple rather than just performing roles that were chosen for you by your family of origin.
Secure the foundation of your legacy
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your relationship goals.